Love Note for Lovers

• When in the heat of the battle, always remember: a warm hug cools a slow burn. It may be better to temporarily put aside feelings of anger during misunderstandings and express your love in a silent, close embrace. It is at times like these, when tempers are flaring, that words can not only fan the flames, they can be like a flash fire; once the fire rages through, there is not much of anything left. A hug at that moment, would be a shining example of unconditional love. Being angry doesn't mean you are no longer loved or lovable, or that you do not love your love partner. Love stands on its own. It only needs your constant attention if you want it to grow. While it may be difficult to express love in the middle of no agreement, it is possible. Imagine a relationship where love partners, in the midst of a disagreement, can agree to a truce long enough to again call attention to the single thing that keeps them together. . . love. Hold one another, if only for a moment. When things cool down, have a warm and loving conversation that again gives birth to the possibility of agreement. If you can imagine it, you can bring it to pass. What an exciting possibility! Love more quickly heals a slow burn.

• Taking your forever lover for granted drives a wedge between the two of you. Then comes the drifting apart you once feared. You become lonely, anxious and withdrawn. What you take for granted, disappears! You and your lover may still be together physically, however, most likely neither one of you are really there for each other. To avoid the consequences of neglect, you will find that the only solution is the open talk you can allow yourself to have about it. Embrace your concerns. Sharing your true self with your love partner adds a new dimension to your relationship. Allowing your love partner to know your inner-world; to know how you really feel, is sharing at a higher level; perhaps even a spiritual level. You will discover a higher source of strength. Not being afraid of how your love partner will react is a true test of courage. Being willing to share yourself in this manner tells your lover the level of trust you are willing to express. When you lovingly communicate, the depth of connection that comes from this kind of intimate conversation, brings on a deeper experience of love, most desired yet difficult when you are inclined to withhold because of fear. You make the choice. Intimacy or separation. It is only and always in your hands. Talk or be silent and wait for the inevitable; the ultimate separation.